Great Sex

No, it's not some new wild and kinky position or technique, it's just some good old fashioned simple communication! Unfortunately many couples find it very difficult to communicate with one another about their sexual needs or preferences and this can lead to a lot of dissatisfaction and dysfunction in the relationship.
Lack of communication is a frequent culprit leading to infidelity as well. Partners sometimes turn to other relationships to meet needs that are not getting met in their current relationship, instead of realizing that if only they concentrate on communicating these needs to their current partner that they too could learn to satisfy them.
There would be no need or desire for either partner to be unfaithful if each partner would simply be honest with each other, communicating their needs, desires and preferences. Your wife (partner) can be the lover you need if you teach her how to satisfy you, telling her what you like and need. Your husband (partner) can be the lover you need him to be if you do the same. If your needs are met in your relationship, there is no need or desire for unfaithfulness.
Communication with your lover is probably “the” most important factor for not only a satisfying sexual relationship but for a relationship in general. If you do not communicate with your lover you can't be satisfied. Many people falsely believe that their lover can read their mind or that they should instinctively know how to please them. This is a very destructive belief for not only the sex, but also the relationship as a whole.
Each one of us is different with unique sexual needs and desires. If you're in a new relationship it takes time to learn what each other like. Your new lover probably has different needs in regard to what they like and how they need to be touched than your previous lover. If it is a long-term relationship you need to continually explore and discover one another's bodies, needs and desires. Needs may change over time. It's necessary to let your lover know what you need and it's equally important to be interested in what your partner needs.
For a relationship to be successful each partner is responsible to communicate their needs to the other and to meeting the needs of the other. If you have a partner who is not willing to learn and not interested in satisfying you, then you would want to evaluate whether this is a relationship you should be in. Getting your sexual needs met is just as important as any other need in the relationship.
Speak openly, directly and honestly. Be specific and detailed. Tell your partner where, when and how to touch you. Show them how much pressure, how much speed and timing that you need. Let them know what words you need to hear and when and how to say them. Discuss what scenarios, techniques and positions work best for you. Share your fantasies. Let them know when something isn't working and let them know when it is working.
There should also be a healthy balance of give and take in each partner and sexual requests should be within reason. No one should have to engage in any activity that is degrading, violent or disrespectful.
If this is a new behavior for you, it may and probably will feel uncomfortable at first, but do it anyway! It will get easier with time. Sharing yourself in this way will increase intimacy, enhance your sexual satisfaction and decrease the risk of unfaithfulness. Your relationship as a whole will be happier, more fulfilling and satisfying in every way.

Sexual Myths Destructive to Your Relationship

In this era where sex seems to be on the mind of everyone and talked about more openly than ever before, it is surprising that there continues to be a lot of misinformation and misconceptions. These myths perpetuate unhealthy patterns of relating, expectations and satisfaction and have the potential to destroy a relationship.
Don't allow your relationship to be prey to the following myths:
1. A Good Relationship Shouldn't Have Any Sex Problems
All couples will probably experience some sexual problems at some point. This does not mean your relationship is over or not a good one. If the problems are not addressed and worked out, then your relationship could be in jeopardy, but the mere existence of problems is not a sign of failure, it's a normal part of relationships. Your partner's sexual needs may change over time. Stress and major life changes are an inevitable part of everyone's life. These kinds of issues can cause change in levels of desire, satisfaction etc. and will require periods of adjustment.
2. Size Matters
This simply is not true. In an attempt to make money, the media continues to keep this destructive myth alive, making men feel inadequate and self-conscious. They set up expectations that are impossible for a man to live up to and make them falsely believe that this is what a woman wants. This is absurd. You do not need a big penis to be an incredible lover and satisfy your woman. Only the first third of a woman's vagina has nerve endings for feeling, the other two thirds has no feeling, so even a small penis is quite capable of stimulating the first third. What are most important to a woman is what kind of lover you are, what kind of person you are, how you feel about her and how you treat her. Making your woman feel loved, special, cherished, appreciated and desired will make sex great for her.
3. A Woman Should Orgasm with Intercourse Alone
The majority of women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone, regardless of how big the penis is, because it does not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris. Many couples struggle needlessly, believing that one of them is doing something wrong if they are not able to achieve this. Using positions that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse may work for some, such as the woman on top or the riding high missionary. You can also stimulate the clitoris with a finger or a vibrator during intercourse or give your woman her satisfaction by pleasuring her orally or manually.
4. My Partner Should Know How to Pleasure Me Without My Telling Them
Your partner is not a mind reader. Lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in sexual dissatisfaction. Yes, most people know the basics, but everyone has unique sexual needs that only they are aware of. You must teach your partner what it is that you need. Don't be shy! Be specific and detailed.
5. It Shouldn't Take Work to Keep Passion Alive
Yes, we would all love to live in the land of fairy tales, but unfortunately it just does not exist! Once again the media is largely responsible for promoting an ideal that just isn't realistic. Relationships go through cycles and levels of passion will vacillate. In the early stages of love passion is a blazing inferno that can't be put out and doesn't require any work, but as the relationship progresses, passion will not stay alive without effort. You must nurture your relationship to keep passion alive.

Top Ten Tips For Phenomenal Sex

1. Communicate
Communication with your lover is “the” most important factor for not only a satisfying sexual relationship but for a relationship in general. If you do not communicate with your partner you can't be satisfied. Many people falsely believe that their lover can read their mind or that they should instinctively know how to please them. This is a very destructive belief for not only the sex, but also the relationship as a whole. Speak openly, directly and honestly. Be specific. Tell your partner where, when and how to touch you. Describe how much pressure, how much speed and the timing you need. Tell them what, when and how to say what you need to hear etc. Let them know when it feels good and when it doesn't. Good communication involves the expression of feelings. Discuss your feelings, needs, desires, fears, embarrassments, expectations in and out of the bedroom in regard to all aspects of the relationship. Good communication will increase intimacy and greater intimacy will lead to greater sex.
2. Be an Unselfish Lover
Be a selfless lover (meaning your goal is your pure desire to give your partner the pleasure they desire.) Don't take each other for granted, which is easy to do if you have been together for a while and will kill your passion. Don't pleasure your lover according to what feels good for you, give them what you know they enjoy. Always tend to your partners needs as well as your own and you will be considered a good lover. Spend one lovemaking session devoted entirely to your lover. Make them feel special and cherished. Express your love and appreciation freely and frequently outside of the bedroom as well as inside the bedroom. Don't assume your lover knows how you feel. It needs to be verbalized. Say I love you or you are so beautiful, or you feel so good. Everyone wants to feel loved, valued and appreciated. Remember that what occurs outside the bedroom greatly impacts what will occur in the bed.
3. Seek Variety
As the saying goes “Variety is the spice of Life”, and boredom is one of the main causes of unfaithfulness. If you keep a lot of variety in your positions and activities, you will never be bored. There are numerous books and videos that can give you new suggestions or be creative and use your imagination. Try having sex in different places of the house or in a bathroom at the gas station, restaurant or some other place that is very exciting for you where you won't get caught. Take a shower with your lover and use your hands as the washrag. Soap them up and explore every inch, nook and cranny of their body. Savor them as if they were a fine a wine. This will elicit erotic, sensual, spiritual and physical energy in both of you and will also serve as a tool to help you learn invaluable information about one another's bodies. Get naked outside and make wild passionate love. I don't believe there is anything more freeing, arousing and spiritual than being naked outside and to make love with the feel of the elements upon your body. It gets you in touch with the primal basics and elicits uninhibited passions. Do things that are unique for you as a couple and you can keep the variety and spice while remaining a monogamous couple. Change your routine.
4. Be Spontaneous and Adventurous
Surprise your lover with something unusual and kinky. Yes Kinky! Be outrageous and adventurous. Show up at their work for lunch naked under your coat and flash them. Send them an invitation to a hotel for a hot night of sex. Role play one of your fantasies. Tell them you must have them at some unusual spot and take them passionately. Women, try not wearing your panties and bra and go through your daily activities. Not having a bra and panties on is very stimulating and will make you feel very sexy and erotic. Tell your partner that you aren't wearing any and you will drive them absolutely wild with the thought of it.
5. Be Present in the Here and Now.
Fully experience each touch, sensation, smell, movement, sound and taste while you are making love. Don't allow your mind to slip into thoughts about work, children or fixing dinner etc. Stay completely focused on your partner and your experience. Allow yourself to become totally immersed in the pleasurable sensations you are giving and receiving.
6. Know Your Own Body and Desires
If you don't know what excites you and pleases you, then your lover can't either. Explore your own body and discover what you like and don't like. Find out what arouses you and makes you roar. Make love with yourself. You can really drive your lover wild by allowing them to watch you pleasure yourself.
7. Make Sex a Priority
Relationships are the most important aspect of our lives and sex is a crucial component of your intimate relationship. Make time for lovemaking. Don't push it off. It should be one of the biggest priorities in your life. When sex is pushed aside desire and passion will dwindle. The more you engage in sex the more your desire will grow.
8. Pursue Your Lover with Unbridled Passion
It is a great aphrodisiac for both female and male to see and feel desire and passion in their lover's eyes and actions. Let your lover know how deeply you want them. Tear their clothes off and take them passionately. Let them hear you delight in them. When making love, tell them how much you enjoy their body or how good they feel to you. Let loose with total abandon.
9. Know Your Partner's Hot Zones
Taking the time to learn what makes your lovers motor run is one of the most important ingredients for great sex. You can never know your lover too much. Pay attention to when and what your lover responds to and learn what they need. Store it in your mind and be sure to use it frequently. When your lover is pleasured and satisfied then they want to reciprocate and please you even more, and thus sexual satisfaction is heightened for both partners. When you know how to please your lover, their desire for you increases and they will want sex more often. Knowing your partner and making a point to please them is an act of love; it shows them they are important to you and that you care about their needs. You should know your lovers love buttons like the back of your hand.
10. Be an Oral Connoisseur
Being a skilled oral lover is a very important component of a couple's sexual relationship for both the male and the female. There are few things more pleasurable for either man or woman than to be savored, devoured and satisfied orally by their lover. It is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. Pleasuring your lover orally has become an integral part of lovemaking. One of the great aspects of oral sex is that it can be a part of foreplay or the main course and there are so many ways to explore it. Giving oral pleasure to your lover is an ultimate act of unselfishness, giving and loving.

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